I had posted this about 5 or 6 years ago and was ask if I could repost it for to be read by some of the newer members.
GFE (Girl Friend Experience) in the Dominican Republic.
You're here for a 1 or 2 week vacation or even living here you have to get realistic about Dominican relationships. The reason most men come down here is because of the beautiful chicas. The culture is a little different and sex is a lot freer (but not as in free) but as a point of view. The longer I'm here I realize how little I understand about the Dominican lifestyles and morality when it comes to sex and love. You have to come to the realization that sex is recreation (what else can you do when you have no money); morality has no part in the equation.
A common misconception is that a majority of Dominican prostitutes work in tourist areas and cater to tourists, when in fact this is not the case. Some do but the majority of Dominican part time prostitutes’ clients are Dominican men. The men visit these small discos that litter the country and are filled with Dominican chicas working as hostesses without pay. (Dominican men do pay when they salida a chica out of these bars.) Sometimes, like immediately before Christmas, you will find more chicas than normal working in a tourist location in an effort to earn some quick money for the holidays. They will then go back to their normal lives.
Typically, the girl who works in these tourist areas as a part time prostitute is in her late teens or early twenties. She may be from the surrounding area but quite frequently she may have come from another part of the country. She may have previously worked in a “take out bar” (bar/disco with a salida) that abound in the country that cater to Dominican men but came to realize that she could make more money from tourists. Dominican men frequent the numerous cabanas that you see all over the countryside with their girlfriend “du jour”. The majority of these women have one or more children by a Dominican man and a vast majority of the time, the father has abandoned the family and his fatherly duties so the woman is left the raise the children herself. Generally, this responsibility is handed over to the chicas’ mother. This cycle frequently repeats itself generation over generation. A young beautiful sexy companion here is not a problem.
Chicas that have a good job or goes to school, and lives at home with their middle class or well off family would be off limits for a tourist on vacation. Sure maybe my 28 year old son with his Spanish when he was living here might be accepted into such a family as her date/boyfriend.
But for sure the 50 - 60 year old "gringo" tourist that isn't needed to provide support for the middle or upper class family won't be a welcome guest or dinner date for their 20 year old daughter. (Remember the movie "Guess who's coming for dinner".)
Do you think these 19 - 20 year olds are with us 50 - 60 year olds for our good looks and charm? Again get real, they do like us because we can make their lives better and we do treat them better than the Dominican men but it's a business deal. They prefer Dominican men to us (80% have steady Dominican boyfriends) because they are more comfortable in their own cultural circle (communication, music and dancing). Think about it, just what do we have in common with a woman 1/3 of our age from a different culture, NOT MUCH! Hell in Canada or the States we wouldn’t have much in common with someone 1/3 our age.
We get love (sex) and affection in return for our financial help and that's the bottom line!
Even the most Dominicanized gringo is going to be looked upon as an outsider here, who potentially has money. There is no way to get around this. Their world view is often very narrow - much of their understanding of us comes from TV and other very stereotyped viewpoints. Dominican families (and Dominicans in general) tend to be very good about sharing resources - if someone gets sick or needs some financial help, they will often scrape up money from very extended parts of the family to try and pay the bill. Thus, a Dominican girlfriend EXPECTS that you will have some extra money to share with the family.
A Dominican girl will treat you like you are her boyfriend, hoping that you will send money to her after you leave in order to help support her family. The only long term relationships that have a better chance of working (if we are ready for one that is) is when you find a still attractive older woman (late 20's to early 30's) who realizes the street life has passed her by and isn't fun and games any more out there.
This is off DR1 web site. In case anyone wants to know where all those Dominican men learn to speak English. ******US returns 64 felons****** The United States returned 64 convicted criminals to the Dominican Republic after having served their jail sentences. The Listin Diario reported that the 64 were residents of New York, Boston, Philadelphia, Brooklyn and New Jersey. They had all been convicted of felonies and their return brings the total number of such cases to 3,165 so far this year (October 2003). Stay away from Dominican men who speak English and haven't got a real job here. These guys would rather con you, the tourist than work, so don't put too much trust, or any for that matter, in them. Some of these were criminals deported from US jails in the past 10 years.
Much the same can be said for the Dominican chicas that work in the hotels or restaurants and can speak English, they routinely have 4 or 5 boyfriends that come down once a year but send money to them monthly via Western Union. The real problem for these chicas is when two of their boyfriends vacation in the Dominican Republic at the same time.
The Pro vs Non-Pro.
First of all if you’re young, good looking and have lots of money you can pick up girls in any country in the world. As you age you just need more money to get the quality you want.
Some guys like to trick poor dumb girls with bullshit to get what they want. There are lots of poor and dumb girls here that they can play “the boyfriend game” on for a short time. There is always a new girl arriving in town they’ll be able to trick.
So what is the difference between a "The Pro" and "Non-Pro".
The Pro: Negotiate what you want: Set a price: Relax and enjoy the evening. With a good "Pro" you will never know they are really out to get your money to pay the rent and put food on the table for her children. There are 19 year old girls that can spin anyone’s head. Also a smart pro will be very careful as in “safe sex”.
Non - Pro: Drinks, bullshit talk, maybe dinner, hope you get what you want before she has to go home. If you did not get what you want, tell all your friends you did and how much better it was with a "nice" girl. She is usually a poor young mother who has numerous “non paying” boyfriends in the barrio and the reason she has one, two or more kids is that they don’t use condoms. But she still hopes you’ll give her some of your money for the rent and food for her children.
What is the difference between a "The Pro" and "Non-Pro”?
Not very much to me.
Pro vs Non Pro was posted by “Funguy” on TRAVEL & THE SINGLE MALE.
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