She never returns
It has no effect, she comes right over
She comes over but complains about it
She never asks again
Comes over and acts like nothing ever happened
I am too scared to say no, so I send it all the time
I am too scared to say no, so I send it sometimes
Requesting money is nothing more than a "What the hell, the worst that can happen is they'll say no" attempt to get you to send money.
Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
For those of you that DO send money(and there are TONS of you), could you please pm me your email address? My mother just died again.
If you think it's love try not paying in the morning..
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A while back I predicted that, as the noose tightens around TFG's neck, both he and the Maga Morons here would post ever more idiotic crap. Right again.
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I never cross them off my list, however I've lost touch with most. Once they realize they're not going to get anything from you most of them stop contact. Once I get to the island, if I call and they're not close by to come see you, they won't go out of their way to come see me. If they're near town, they'll still come see me. I totally get it too, they figure I may be a sure thing to get a couple of thousand pesos, but they have to get on a bus and travel to me, and they can do that any other time and just find someone else.
I do have several "not a putas" on FB and they never asked for anything. I chat with them all the time, and some of them I've known for almost 2 years.
I some times get amazed or maybe I am just a bit confused, as to why some guys take it so personally when a chica requests that they send her money. She has nothing to lose by asking, maybe the guy will say yes. After all many do. But to think that she is insulting you just by making the request, at least in my opinion, is getting a little carried away. Most of the guys that these chicas sleep with aren't able to communicate with them, what they are about etc. The only communication generally is the guy getting inside of her and then grunting to completion.
If your spanish vocabulary is basically, freaky freaky, o chupame, then hand signs, why take it personal if she doesn't know what you are about besides the fact that you pay her to have sex with her. How is she disrespecting you if she asks for money, she don't know about you, some still asks me on occasion, but I can explain to them that I don't and why I don't after that if they are persistent, well then I can take it somewhat personal even though I don't, but if you can't have a conversation why take it personal, they after all are just trying to survive.
People who don't know you, or what you are about, really can't insult you, someone who knows you, can. These chicas don't know the majority of you guys, simply because the two of you have problems communicating besides what you do in the cama, don't take it personally.
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I wouldn't take it personally. Like it's been said what do they have to loose--they'd like you to say yes, but the word 'no' doesn't hurt them like it does some people. If I distanced myself from a chica that asked me for money it wouldn't be because I was insulted, but more of a precaution to the kind of chica loca antics to come.
I didn't communicate a lot between trips with the one that did ask me. There were others that I communicated several times a week for a year or so and I was almost expecting them to ask and they never did. You really never know who will ask.
But isn't that a two way street? Would you think of her as anything more than a roll in the hay for the night? Maybe she realizes that as well so she figures there is no harm in asking. If you tell her no, then there will always be someone else to come along
We all use each other. In doing so, lies and deception can become part of the deal. Some guys are more skilled than others at negotiating those potential landmines. Those that have problems with that, are referred to as "suckers".
I've given my cell phone number to a few ladies there. Yes, they have asked me for dinero when we have talked and I did send WU to a couple prior to Christmas, $50 to each of them. Not a back breaker for me and I was happy to do it. I have known each for awhile and had no reservations about doing so. I later received a call from both of them thanking me.
I mailed out Christmas cards to my sister, brother-in-law and kids with $100 in cash to buy something they wanted on me. Didn't receive so much as a thank you card.
Yeah, I felt like a sucker....with my own family!!
Ok quid pro quo, and you ain't interested in her because of her charming personality either, so what is the problem???
Plus I qualified it before I went into it, by saying the type of monger, who doesn't speak the language and all he wants is a piece of ass, so it is fair, if all she wants is a paycheck, no?
All he got to say is no or ignore her, not that hard, but he shouldn't in my opinion take it personal and it seems that some take it personal when a chica requests something, shit..... all you have given her is some dick, and there is a line to give her that. Many may give it better than that particular monger as well. So all he is is nothing but a paycheck, so get over it.
It ain't personal when she request some dinero, that is how she survives, the only thing I am saying is why are some equating a request with being insulted, it isn't an insult, and if some knew the language and had their shit a bit tighter they would probably avoid that as well.
I am not saying anything more or less, it is what it is, you want ass, and she wants dinero, party on!!!!!!
it is ust a game they play - all seasoned mongers should know this - the more gringos they ask the better chance one of them says "yes"...
I hear you Dasbooty, but then again you are thinking with your north american attitudes, and we already know to leave them at the door when you go down there, and as far as she is concerned, she has already gave you something, now I agree with you which is why I never paid WU, but again why take it personal, she is just doing what she knows.
To me a different mind set, but then again I have a different mind set from many that I have met, including many on this board, I don't take it personal. Only one time on this board did I take something personal, and many have disagreed with me over the years, but like I said it ain't personal, until it is personal, and I know you know the difference as I do.
Believe it or not sometimes when they ask for money it's a sign that your relationship with her has become a little more than "John". I have a former Passions girl that it took me two years to fuck because she was and is constantly in a relationship. Over the last year or so we'd gotten to the point where she makes her way to Sosua when I'm there. Before the last trip I sent her a text to let her know my dates. She was in Sosua. She confirmed she would be there during my stay. Later in the day she texted me telling me things were terrible in Sosua and could I help her out with a little cash to make it back to STI. I explained I did not ever send money and she was fine with that. We got together as planned next trip. Based on what I know of her she didnt ask for money because she thought I was stupid. She asked because she felt we had become close enough where she could ask. Now if she had asked for 2000 or more pesos she would have been trying to play me. In my experience no chick realistically expects anyone to give them that type of cash.
It's my understanding it's typical when a Dominican guy is seeing a chick on a somewhat regular basis that he is expected from time to time "help out". So often after you've established some level of relationship with a chick she'll view you as a potential source of emergency assistance. The problem becomes since you don't live there whether you'll get a return on your investment. The Dominican will, whether it happens for you depends on the integrity of the chica you're dealing with.
Bottom line, a lot of cats bring requests for cash on themselves. They've gotten a little too comfy or cuddly with a chick and inadvertently mislead her to conclude the relationship was such where she could ask for "un poco ayuda". Now if a chick asking you for money offends you don't put yourself in a position for it to happen. As Yayow conveyed, those sort if requests are just par for the course. If you're fucking her on a regular basis and talking on the phone or texting her frequently then the surprise should be when she doesn't at least once hint at needing some assistance.
Last edited by The Sage; 02-15-2012 at 11:08 PM.
It's not just a Dominican thing. I've had Jamaicans, Colombians, Venezuelans, Phillipinas, Tanzanians.......all ask for money or bring them a $500 cell phonI e or a $400 camera or a $900 laptop or some other such nonsense. A couple even asked me to put them up in $200/month apartments. I always say yes. If I see them again and if they bring it up I just explain to them how my Grandmother got sick and needed a major organ transplant.
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Exactly....... some act like only Dominicanas do this, all women do this (especially those that work selling their bodies), just say "no" if she don't like it and gets an attitude, get another. Don't take it personal, don't get it twisted, it is what it is. Just like they can ask, you can say flat out no, or make up some excuse, what are they going to do?????
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