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No Worries
I will bethe first to say I dont understand the dominican culture at all. So I am coming to you guys for an explanation/ clarity.
Up until 2 months ago I was dating a really nice Dominican woman here in NYC. Very nice female, own business, and a great person. (Even though we are not together anymore, I have nothing bad to say about her). One day she was hosting a family BBQ in her back yard and her Aunt from SD showed up. I guess her and my lady had spoken about our relationship an dthe aunt wanted to speak to me about what I am expected to do for her niece.
The aunt told me that inthe Dominican culture "The man is expected to pay ALL of his girlfriends bills!" He pays for everything and she puts her money into savings. She told me "No worries, when you want to go out with my nice, you are supposed to give her money for a new dress, shoes, bag and pay for her to go to the salon to do her hair and nails. She represents you, so it is your responsibility to pay so she can look beautiful for you!" I gave the aunt the side eye and asked "Didnt she have clothes and shoes before she met me? Why do I have to buy her a new wardrobe every weekend?"
Then the aunt explained that I was supposed to pay ALL of her nieces bills every month. Rent, electricity, car, credit cards, etc... When I asked why i would do that, she stated that it was the Dominican way. I asked her "Well, what happens if we break up after 1 year, then I wasted all of that money that I could have used to pay my bills or buy something for myself."
I explained to the aunt that I make a decent living (About 100K a year) but that there was no way on earth i could afford to pay all of my bills and my grilfriends at the same time. I would go broke! The aunt just shook her head and kept repeating to her niece "Different cultures. Americans are not like dominicans! they just dont understand" My girlfriend didnt say anything, she just sat there and listened to our convo, but she didnt chime in.
From time to time, I did assist her with bills, 200 here, 500 there, 400 there. But it wasnt every month, just when I knew she was short. My question is "Is this really the way realtionships are with dominican women? Or was the aunt just giving me some bs because in her mind "All he is doing for you is fucking you. He sint taking care of you!"
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