Thank you for bringing this up. I've been musing along these lines since my first mongering trips down-range. I'd already been considering moving offshore, since my first visit to Uruguay (years before I got introduced to the
P4P life); meeting up with Seville on my first visit to Sosua, and reading his accounts here, sharpened my interest in moving to "Punani Paradise" ... some day. But how much would the easy, economical availability of sweet young girl-flesh really impact my life?
I think most people, most places, live that norm, one way or another. It's the way we evolved, or the way God planned it if you believe that way. But there have always been outliers, at the fringes of the herd, ranging from celibate hermits, through disaffected lone-wolves, to cheerful libertines playing the Playboy game. Is it fair to say that we on this board, and especially those of us in your situation, are more comfortable living on our own, changing partners at a whim, than we are living pair-bound with a woman who's living on our provender and whose children we might have sired?
I've lived alone since August 2002, when my Mom "went West." I stopped chasing after girlfriends in 1986, and got introduced to mongering in Paraguay in 2004. I only partook when I was OCONUS on vacation (except that first time), and even now, mongering isn't the sole purpose of my travels ... well, except for my trips to Medellin, and last month's whirlwind tour of some of Germany's FKK sauna-clubs. But certainly it's part of my vacationing life-style, and it will be a factor when (if) I choose my One Particular Harbor -- just not the only factor, or even the prime factor.
As for my seeking out someone to "happily-ever-after" with ... I won't say "never," but from my present perspective, it's just not in the cards I've been dealt, this hand.
IIRC, Camaro has talked in his threads about looking for a favorita, though he's still playing "Musical Beds" just as you are. Seville posted some remarkable threads about his own exploits, including some that were pretty outrageous even from our POV as mongers, but the last we've heard of him was a third-party account that he'd settled down -- maybe out of necessity, we'll leave it at that.
I know that if I were living in Punani Paradise, even part-time the way SeaWeed manages it, I doubt that I'd be seeking out a fresh bed-partner every night, the way I do (the way we do) on vacay. Similarly, I doubt if I'd go scuba-diving every day, the way I try to when I'm in a seaside destination. That's not just because of the expense, though what Lord Chesterfield said to his son about it still applies to our situation ("The position is ridiculous, the pleasure is fleeting, and the expense is damnable!") But with my comfort level at being on my own, I don't see myself seeking out a long-term partner, either ... though, as I've been told, "these things just happen."
I appreciate your opinion, which I'm aware is formed out of your experience. I think it's worth bearing in mind, for any of us who are considering that Big Move some day, and who are seeking out our own One Particular Harbor. Maybe Jimmy might consider spinning this off into its own thread, because it may seem like a thread-jack here, but I believe it's worthy of discussion.
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